The Love You Withhold Is the Pain That You Carry Lifetime after Lifetime
Living in this world today we all experience many tragic moments that bring us pain, many exciting moments that bring us joy, and everything in between that is brought about by our own choices and actions, but when it comes to giving others the opportunity to experience joy or happiness by making them aware of themselves we sometimes chose to hate them and in turn carry that burden on our shoulders.
Although many are unaware of it at times, we have a choice in the matter, whether it is to hate or to love someone with our actions, although it may be something subtle in our minds. Those of us who ARE aware often choose to turn the other cheek and flee from the situation thinking it is for our own best benefit to ignore the problems of others. I’m not just speaking from the aspect of displaying your hate towards them or telling “white lies” when it comes to making someone aware, this article intends to go much deeper than that.
“The love you withhold is the pain that you carry lifetime after lifetime.” Now reading this at first you may think you understand or maybe not, but truly try to wrap your head around this concept and tell me if you really begin to get a glimpse of its true magnitude. We all have the power to see what peoples actions are causing in their own respective lives and yet when we do see or notice these actions are causing problems for the respective person in our lives we sometimes decide to let them fall flat on their faces without warning instead of showing them that what they are doing is causing them to slip and will eventually make them fall.
This aspect of life takes a lot of courage, a huge amount of self-love, and a great amount of love for the other person because in order to stand up and tell someone that you see them causing their own demise in a sense you need to have all of these things. I am not saying that you should scold the person about what they are doing whether it is that they are surrounding themselves with the so called “wrong” people or whatever the case may be, but speak to them with a powerful caring tone that way your loving emphasis can be felt. At first the person may seem unresponsive in that they may be thinking you are presenting yourself as a superior individual, which is a very common response, but with the right tone and voice you can clearly get your message across and challenge them to reflect on their actions subtly and this will show them that this is not an attack on them personally but rather a spark aimed at their consciousness. You are trying to help them and in NO WAY should this be a thing of ego on your part and if later they come to you and respond correctly you know you did it with the right actions, thoughts, and intentions. However this may not happen in every situation, people may choose to COMPLETELY ignore you and continue on in their distractive ways and that is fine, but that is also the magic of this phrase. Let me explain.
Being that you were the one who was aware enough to the point to where you saw/see that their actions were becoming very non-progressive and was/is affecting their spiritual or personal growth, you (deciding not to withhold any love) meaning you shared with them your concern, which may eventually become hate if not shared and properly processed in your mind, you no longer have to carry that burden throughout your daily life (the pain that you carry lifetime after lifetime). So in essence you come out on top and feel liberated no matter what the outcome of the situation is, whether they chose to take your words to heart and change or whether they decide to be ignorant and do nothing is no longer or should no longer be your concern because you took the initiative and showed them that you had concern and wished to helped them and beyond that there is nothing that any of us can do because ultimately we cannot change people (the change has to come on their part alone).
So in saying that, yes it may seem as if it is difficult to do because you may fear what the other person might say or how they may respond, but I am not telling you to go out and look for every little thing that you may feel is “wrong” with a person and start confronting them about it or start pointing things out. I only ask that you no longer withhold yourselves from releasing the weight that you have been carrying on your consciousness for some time now, this is not totally about the other person, in a lot of ways you are helping yourself and there should be NO fear in that. Whether it be with a friend, partner, or loved one all things must be faced when you are on this path because in order for you to truly ascend and become a being of light (or triple darkness) you cannot have minor things like this causing your distress when it can simply be handled with the right approach.
So therefore I am merely applying the titled phrase to this article, you can choose whether to apply it to your life or not, because in all sincerity, if I were not to sit down and write this article then put it out to it share with you all, I would not be practicing what I preach.
Erik Inglada
Siris King
Reader Comments (10)
In regards to the article, I agree. It’s like that show on A&E ‘Intervention’ where everyone knows there is a drug addict in the house but no one wants to be honest with the situation. Therefore, family members ignore the obvious issue, while allowing their loved ones to go down a very scary path in life. What this article brilliantly illustrates is sometimes we need to be honest and ‘real’ with our loved ones and oneself to be able to face the issue at hand whether it conjures up negative or positive emotions in us. Some people may call it ‘tough love’, but that’s what we need sometimes. Just as Soft love is necessary to make us ‘feel good’ about our relationships; we also need tough love to help prevent others and ourselves from going down the wrong direction in life. Love is love. And it will help protect and make us be better through thick and thin.
I think everyone can benefit from this article! Thanks once again.
-Good article bro
Thanks for the read Siris Network.
@Carl. Yeah bro its definitely not easy on either party when the initial confrontation occurs but after both parties leave with a sense of wonder about what just happened and when you have time to reflect on it you realize it is a wonderful gift to recieve or give on either end.
@Neo. Glad you realised something bro Ive gone through that a few times myself, thinking nothing is "wrong" with me when people start to point things out I would ignore it but at the same time I knew it was true, now when people do it I set the example for them and say "yes your right and I need to change" that just throughs them off completely and is another one of my tools to get them to reflect if I can do it so can they in a sense.
@David. Yes I personally have witnessed people who cause events like the one you described lol and have also been one of those people I must admit, but thats where I learned how to do this by watching those people through there emotions on others like a storm and it came to me that there was no need for that type of expression that is caused from holding on to and building up bottled emotions we can all save ourselves from these kind of lash outs by simple exspressing ourselves as soon as we feel these emotions building up. Do it on the spot so to speak, One more thing David we no longer consider ourselves the siris network you may refer to us now as "The Amunite Network" my friend.
@Daniel. I totally agree with you brother that is the subtle point I was trying to make, once we become aware of these crossroad situations and start to actually face them head on with the proper appraoch the crossroads that follow are just easier and easier to approach although they may be difficult you will have the confidence and spiritual strength to tackle it just like how a Pro linebacker would take down a rookie lol
Im glad y'all enjoyed the article.
GO Erik! I look forward to reading more in the future :)